Monika Suri

Life has started  on the forties track . If I sometime go down the memory lane , there are many flashes of happy , sad , crazy or even  tough moments . I was in class 2nd when we used to go to school in a rickshaw . It was fun , many times getting off the moving rickshaw and then again getting on it with Ramu Bhaiya getting irritated . But I don’t regret that time . I was in class 10th when we were given farewell party by juniors and rampwalk used to be an essential part of the party . I used to be an idiot when it came to fashion , make-up or style walk . Still  I draped myself in my mother’s magenta saree and did some chaos on the stage. But I don’t regret doing all that funny . I was doing my PG when we bunked many times , made fun of our professors , used to be busy and happy   dancing , watching horror movies or teasing one another  . When the scholars used to be busy studying in library , we would be busy stealing  the laddoos from someone’s  almirah . But ...

Zen is a school of Buddhism that originated in China . The word Zen means meditation. Zen teachings emphasize  the value of meditation and intuition rather than ritual worship or study of scriptures. It offers a method of self-searching . Zen stories are great lessons for life. The lesson can be anything about life  which can be discovered through a life devoted to looking within yourself. Zen lesson about ‘Time’ Gasan , a japanese Zen master instructed his pupils one day ” Those who speak about killing and who desire to save the lives of all conscious beings are right . It is good to protect animals and insects . But what about those who are killing time ? Furthermore , what about the one who preaches without enlightenment ? Isn’t he killing Budhism ?”  The story teaches us the value of time . Time is wealth and once it is gone , you can’t bring it back . So one should make the best use of Time . Begin Today .   Zen lesson about ‘Temper...

The theme on which I am writing nowadays is #Prerna -Inspire yourself Now the question is -how does one inspire oneself ? Not all the people follow the same  techniques for motivation . May be the thing which motivates me  , doesn’t shake you even little . And this is also possible that the thing which is able to motivate me today just doesn’t make any difference to me tomorrow . I have written on various topics under #Prerna – Positive attitude , Determination , Happiness , Confidence , Overcoming fear , etc . But What actually motivates me ? I am not just writing about motivation , I am  actually trying to embrace motivation in my real life. That’s what I am trying to share through my blog .   The different (E)xperiments I have done with motivation Reading Reading is very important for motivating oneself . I don’t watch much of TV or all the time scrolling my facebook . Even if I scroll , I scroll to find something good to read – something whic...

There are vibrations all around Universe is energy and energy is vibration . Energy can neither be created nor be destroyed . It just transforms into different forms . This is Physics . There are vibrations all around the universe. It depends on you which  vibrations your mind catches. When you go to a temple or any other religious place , you feel at peace and calm . Because there are positive vibrations in that place . When your inner vibrations are in same frequency  with those vibrations , you feel good . There may be some people in your life whom you just don’t like to be with . You feel unhappy or angry in their presence . It is because your and the other person’s vibrations don’t match . What is Law of Vibration ? If you are feeling positive you would attract more positive people around you.  People would love to come to you .  But if your inner vibrations are negative like you are angry , in complaining mode or fear something , then you just can not attract lov...

Do you  know the meaning of the word ‘Undeterred’ ? The cambridge dictionary defines it as : still continuing to do something or enthusiastic about doing it despite setbacks or bad situations  In hindi if you look for its meaning , it is  अडिग Be undeterred for achieving your goals It’s your life . You have some aspirations and goals which you are working towards . May be the journey is long , the path has many obstacles , or you have to face many ups and downs but be always undeterred as it’s your one precious life . Don’t loose hope at the feet of fear or failure . Failure is not the end . It’s just a process to teach you many lessons . If not this time , you would succeed for sure in your next attempt . Don’t be discouraged . Keep working towards your goals consistently . Be undeterred by the judgements and views of others In real life , you are being judged by many people . Sometimes those judgements make you  feel bad about yourself or yo...

Do you value time ? Most of us live as if we have an unlimited time on this earth to do all the things we want to do or we should do so as to have a rewarding life . So we keep procrastinating and put our dreams on hold and we continue with daily life chores that keep us all the time busy . We many times make the excuse ” Time hi nahi hai “ How much time is left in your Life ? Do you know ? How old are you today ? In your thirtees or forties ? Imagine yourself ten years back . You had some dreams at that time which you wanted to fulfill . You had some goals .  May be you wanted to inculcate a new habit in your life . If you look today then what do you notice ? Have those dreams been fulfilled ? Did you work efficiently towards your goals ?Have these years made you embrace any new habit ? Let me give  my own example . Ten years ago I came into contact with a religious organization ISKCON which emphasizes on the love of God via  chanting of hare krishna mantra . That’s ...

Spiritual health is basically one’s morals and life principles  -its how we treat ourselves and others when no one is looking .  Spiritual health is about the connection with self , others , the nature and God .  Spiritual health  is  one of the key aspects of overall health of a being . According to numerous studies , spiritual health leads to improved mental health  and is positively related to physical health too . No doubt that  the major component of spiritual health is the religious component- the religious thoughts or actions , But still a  person may not be  spiritually very healthy just because  he goes to a temple or other religious place daily . Spiritual health components Connection with God–Religious Component  The religious component means a sense of connection with God, love of God, prayer, the feeling that God is effective, and God-oriented knowledge, attitude, and behavior.  “ The most important and essential component of spiritual health is communication wi...

The quality of a great quote is that it contains a wealth  of wisdom. You often tend to look for some quotes about the various domains of life -happiness , motivation , determination , success and what not . I am also a great fan of quotes . We  all are actually searching for  self-improvement .  The quotes inspire us all  , improve the quality of our thoughts and in turn bring a quality life . Quotes about self-improvement  We first make our habits and then our habits make it. What a strong quote by John Dryden , an English poet . It’s very important to adopt  good habits in life . Our habits determine the quality of our life . But sometimes we find it so difficult to adopt a new habit , we do try it , but lack of determination makes us tire after few days only . Our body is not able to cope up with the new stress associated with replacing old behaviour with the new one . But we must keep in mind that once we are able to make a good habit , then that good habit brings quality to ...

My theme under #BlogchatterA2Z 2019 is #Prerna -Inspire yourself  If you don’t know what is #Prerna click here  The posts starting with alphabets from A to Z are as under :– A for Attitude : Build a positive Attitude B for Being a Light : Shine from within C for Challenges : How challenges can change you ? D for Determination : Is your determination strong ? E for Emotions : What are your emotional energizers ? F for Fear : Do you fear of failure in your life ? G for Gain : No Pain No Gain H for Helen : Get inspired from a blind girl I for Impossible : Can you fix it ? J for Jeet : The Victory K for Keywords : What are your happiness keywords ? L for Life : What do you want to do in your precious life ? M for Make : Do you make a difference in someone’s life ? N for Nurture : You need to nurture your soul too O for O’clock : Stop snoozing your clock P for Personality : Have an impacting personality Q for Quotes : Self-Improvement Quotes R for Regre...

Around 7-8 years back , a beggar woman used to come to our home every sunday . She was an aged woman (i think in her sixtees) , patchy skin and dark complexioned , always dressed up in a shabby saree  , hair so rough and dishevelled , with a ripped pair of chappals showing her  totally cracked heels. I think she must be  from any of the  remote villages of some other city , that I just didn’t understand her language . Ringing our bell , she would call out loudly ” Chapp…..” I just don’t know what that word meant . Her looks and her voice were irritating for me . But still , to avoid and move her out quickly   I would sometimes give her few rupees or anything to eat like fruit or biscuit . My intention used to be to make her go away fast . It became her weekly affair to come to our home every sunday without any gap . In few weeks my heart developed a sympathetic attitude towards her , my mind thinking deeply about her bad condition and the ill fortune she wa...

Personality is the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual’s distinct character. One’s personality plays a major role in  life . It’s not just about that first  impression but the lasting impression  you create on others mind . Let your personality be powerful enough that people talk about even at your back , Let your personality be attractive enough that people may feel jealous of , Let your personality create an Impact . Personality is not just about your face , the  fashion clothes you are wearing or the latest gadgets you are playing with . It’s lot more than that . How to have a powerful personality ? Dress well The very first thing people notice in you is what you are wearing  and how well you are carrying it . Your clothes need not be very fashionable, branded or costly but they should be neat and should appeal on you according to your age and body structure . 2. Wear Confidence One of the major components of a powerful personal...

Every morning I set four alarms you know . Starting from 5 o’clock in the morning ,the others are set each  at a gap of 20 minutes , so as to make sure that I am finally out of bed by 6 o’clock  . When the first alarm rings , I always hit the snooze button and go to a beautiful tiny nap once again . So every morning I have 2-3 snoozes and then 2-4 alarms jerking me to finally get up and start my day . I have to hurry then so much for everything ,  quickly finishing kitchen work , packing tiffins and then myself  rushing to office . Thanks to my good time management skills. How good it would be if the ring of my first alarm at 5 o’clock got me out of bed ? There would be no rushing at all . It would be a relaxing start to  my day . And i might find some time for walk or meditation or just enjoy the golden time when there is silence all around . I need to find a solution to  stop snoozing my alarm clock . It’s not that I have’t tried it but if i say honestly ...

Nourishment means the foods that you need to grow and stay healthy. Most of us  are very conscious of the foods that we eat – we prefer organic food , full of nutrients , we avoid junk foods , we want to maintain an ideal weight , feel healthy and look smart . We follow one or the other exercise routine also to our best efforts . Are you also following all this ? Yes ?? That’s good , you are taking care of your body by nourishing it with healthy foods. Keep it up. But are you good at nourishing your soul also ? Did this question appear strange to you ? Yes , you need to nourish your soul also on daily basis . What would you do with physically fit body if you lack peace and happiness ? Isn’t the tranquility of mind important ? What do you ultimately want in life – just a fit body or a contented heart ? Bound with THINGS or freedom of mind ? Lot of money or peace ? A silent cage or a chirping little nest  ? Here are a few nourishment tips for your soul :- Simplify ...

Fitness Motto- No Pain No Gain “No Pain No Gain” Basically it’s an exercise motto – one must exercise and keep himself fit and healthy . A healthy and fit body can’t be achieved without taking pains. By pains , it means physical exertion and determination here . Determination is utmost important as without a strong desire in your mind , nothing can be achieved . Follow any fitness schedule- walk, jog , gym, yoga , swim, the kind can be different but more necessary is the persistent effort . Come there  any difficulties but just don’t miss your fitness routine . It keeps you energized , increases your stamina , raises your happiness index , reduces your stress level , helps in weightloss . Don’t treat your fitness schedule just for the purpose of weightloss . It helps you in many other ways . And remember one thing -“It’s the mind which you have to convince , your  body can do just anything ” Read- Healthy Body in just 30 minute...

Nischay kar apni jeet karun These are the words from the most celebrated hymn “Deh Shiva Bar Mohe Eha”  by Sri Guru Gobind Singh . The composition describes the glory of the supreme power. The words “Nischay kar apni jeet karun” mean that with Determination , I shall be victorious . These words are so inspiring  if we put this into practice . With strong determination , anything can be achieved . Work hard , be determined , struggle , and you are sure to meet success. “Victory belongs to the most persevering.” Full lyrics of the hymn :- ਨ ਡਰੋਂ ਅਰਿ ਸੋ ਜਬ ਜਾਇ ਲਰੋਂ ਨਿਸਚੈ ਕਰਿ ਅਪੁਨੀ ਜੀਤ ਕਰੋਂ ॥ न डरौं अरि सौं जब जाय लड़ौं, निश्चय कर अपनी जीत करौं ਦੇਹ ਸਿਵਾ ਬਰੁ ਮੋਹਿ ਇਹੈ ਸੁਭ ਕਰਮਨ ਤੇ ਕਬਹੂੰ ਨ ਟਰੋਂ ॥ देह शिवा बर मोहे ईहे, शुभ कर्मन ते कभुं न टरूं ਅਰੁ ਸਿਖ ਹੋਂ ਆਪਨੇ ਹੀ ਮਨ ਕੌ ਇਹ ਲਾਲਚ ਹਉ ਗੁਨ ਤਉ ਉਚਰੋਂ ॥ अरु सिख हों आपने ही मन कौ इह लालच हउ गुन तउ उचरों ਜਬ ਆਵ ਕੀ ਅਉਧ ਨਿਦਾਨ ਬਨੈ ਅਤਿ ਹੀ ਰਨ ਮੈ ਤਬ ਜੂਝ ਮਰੋਂ ॥ जब आव की अउध निदान बनै अति ही रन मै तब जूझ मरों। Meaning :- I shall...

What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life ? I  want to do something , I want to do something Big in life . These words keep  floating in my mind . But I could never actually find an answer to what Big I wish to do in life ?  I came across the famous lines  by Mary Oliver “Tell me what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life ?”    The question made me  think hard what I actually want to do in my life or how it has been till today . I sat down to analyze my past and assess my achievements or regrets in life . My achievements in Life so far:- When I was doing my studies , I and my parents always wished for my  good education followed by a good job. By God’s Grace I could achieve this . I did my Masters in Physics and am having a respectable job for the last many years . After I got married ,  God blessed me with a cute loving daughter . It is the most beautiful form of love on earth. After many years of marriage and lots of planning , we could  f...

We are working hard everyday  – we are earning money , buying new things , proud to  have a long online friend list  ,  flaunt our new dresses or the holiday tour moments  on social media and then count the likes or comments .  What are we trying to achieve  out of all this ? We are earning money because money can buy us anything which may make us happy . We buy new clothes , big car or latest gadgets because we want to keep ourselves updated , we make long friend list on social media because we want others to know how happy our  life is going on .Ultimately we all are in search of happiness . Like SEO is important for anything on the internet , so is the Happiness SEO important in our life . SEO stands for Search Engine Optimization , which means optimizing the content so as to have the greater visibility in the virtual world . Same is with Happiness . You need to optimize your life so as to experience  greater happiness. Like there are keywords in all the fields  – content...

“Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given, than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” ——Muhammad Ali Do you also use the big word – Impossible ? Do you know what is Impossible ? Have you ever tried doing the work before calling it Impossible ? Did you try  Impossible ? Impossibility is in your mind . Go and Fix it . There are many people who only do talking , lot of talking but they just don’t want to work hard , do something new , explore new potentials or develop their capabilities . They are very happy with their easy world and feel happier in eating/sleeping or enjoy other petty issues like criticizing or pulling others down .  Do you also come in this category of people ? Are you afraid of change and too lazy for work-hard attitude ? Are you scared of stepping ou...

I happened to read the autobiography of Helen Keller -one of the very influential people of the world . Helen  Keller was an American activist , born on June 27, 1880 .  She was stricken by a serious  illness that left her blind and deaf, when she was just 19 months old . She struggled a lot but didn’t allow her disabilities become an obstacle in her life . She traveled the world and helped many people with visual impairments . She proved a real example of strength ,hope and happiness in her book -The Story of my Life . Life lessons  from  Helen Keller’s book:- 1. The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision. How powerful the thought is . If you have eyes but don’t have goals in your mind , you are able to see the world with your sight but don’t know what you want to do on this earth or what you want to become ,then that is worse than just being blind . So one must have a vision for himself and also work towards it diligently . 2. With Co...