Monika Suri

Z stands for  Zulmat . It is an urdu word , meaning darkness or obscurity . The dark attitude towards a girl starts from her birth itself . Born is not a girl, born is just a child , but she is transformed into a girl by instilling many hard facts and fears in her mind .  Girls speak slowly , girls must  learn cooking , good girls don’t go outside the home at night , good girls dress up properly , girls have to make compromises in their lives after marriage , so all such things are instilled and a child is transformed into a girl and then starts the dark attitude of the surroundings .  Every woman faces many biases and obscurities in her life and is still asked to remain quiet as if it’s part of her beauty package . I have written about many of the obscurities faced by women – Abuse / Bride Burning / Violence / Sexual assault / Foeticide and many others . The question is why a woman of 21st century is still caged in these obscurities ? When will the clouds of Zulmat ...

                                                                        BE YOURSELF O WOMAN ! Woman – whom God has given the role of a creator , makes the first definition of beauty. The womb where a seed finds its place to settle, grow and get nourished , is beauty . The placenta which develops to provide oxygen and other nutrients to the baby inside , is beauty . The umbilical cord which connects your and your baby’s soul , is beauty . Yes you are the creator O Woman ! Nobody else has been given the power as beautiful  to form a  baby from a tiny  seed . You are beautiful as you are O Woman ! And please never ever doubt this , even when some others do . Be Yourself . Talk to yourself daily in the mirror ” Yes ! I am beautiful as I am “ As a woman , you play many roles in your life and live greater number of responsibilities than men . But still sometimes you feel low , the reason may be the daily household stress or some harsh  pointers  thrown at  you being a ...

V stands for Victim Story of Laxmi from India Laxmi became a victim of acid attack in 2005  when she was just 15  ,  the reason was that she had rejected a 30 year old man’s love proposal.  The incident occured when she was busy shopping in the market . she was rescued by a taxi driver who took him to the hospital. Laxmi underwent 9 major surgeries . Her will power helped and she survived . No doubt the scars would last with her for lifetime but she is making her scars  motivate other acid attack victims .  She has taken the  challenge to fight . She collected 27000 signatures and filed  in the supreme court to curb acid sales in the market .  Laxmi now also runs an NGO  which is dedicated for the acid attack victims.  Laxmi also received International Women of Courage award in 2014 by Michelle Obama . In 2014 she fell in love with Alok Dixit whom she met while working for a campaign . Alok was impresssed with Laxmi’s spirit and the duo decided to be together .  Now the coup...

S stands for Second Sex . By Second Sex , they mean  Women . Now the question is that why is SHE  addressed as the Second Sex ? Why is SHE considered at the second position ? Why is it always HE at the first position ? Is the woman still seen as a secondary thing , a subordinate to the male society ? Yes She is  , she is still trying to find her real existence ,  she bewails of her thwarted existence . She still feels angry when some factors stand in her way , blocking her path to her real independence , success and happiness . A woman is still   juggling for total liberation  Simone De Beauvoir , the French feminist and philosopher has written at length about a woman . She has made a detailed analysis of a woman’s oppressions , the unjust treatments or the mental pressures she has always been facing . It’s true  that Women have progresed in many fields but this is also not false that there are still constraints on her . It’s true that women have won their freedom...

The alphabet of the day is E E stands for Empowerment Women Empowerment The dictionary meaning of Empowerment is the process of becoming stronger and more confident especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights . When we have talked of Abuse ,   Bride Burning ,  Child Bride , Domestic violence , it’s important to talk of women Empowerment also . The general  statements about women are like -Women are weak , Women are too sensitive , Women cry a lot , etc . And  on the other side women also have to suffer many kind of challenges , assaults , inequality , domestic violence , etc.  Hey The Women ! The need is to empower ourselves . The time demands Women Empowerment . You know all of us have an alpha instinct within us . Do you know what’s that ? If you go by psychology and read about alpha or beta woman , you may get to the idea that alpha woman is the one who is dominant , has an aggressive behaviour or the one who is very  much extrovert and ...

  क्या कांच का यह सेतु , नारी शक्ति को नहीं   दर्शा  रहा ??? दिखने में तो कांच जैसी नाज़ुक है नारी   , पर अंदर से लोहे सी मज़बूत है नारी । दिखने में तो कांच जैसी पारदर्शी है नारी , पर अंतर्मन में नाजाने कितने राज़ समेटे हुए है नारी । जैसे इस कांच को कई यातनाओं से गुज़ारकर सुदृढ़ बना दिया गया है , वैसे ही जीवन के संघर्षों से गुज़रकर निर्भीक बन गयी है नारी । कांच की दृढ़ता  व नारी की क्षमता , दोनों  को ही  परखा जा रहा है आज  । Linking this post with Tina and Mayuri for #fridayfotofiction    

#Fridayfotofiction is a weekly bloghop which celebrates fiction writing based on the photo prompt. All were enjoying Bonfire at the NariNiketan . But  as expected, Neha didn’t come out of her room . Everyone knew she gets  frightened at the sight of fire . Asha Didi   went   to her  and  again saw her   lost in her past as usual , browsing her wedding album. How enthusiastic she used to be earlier ! How the magical love in the college had made her  tie knot with Varun around the sacred fire ! But her family  just couldn’t satisfy the greed of her in-laws. How she became a victim of domestic violence and of Bride Burning !!! (Tears  were making  itching sensation while rolling down her burnt cheeks) Neha had somehow managed to escape  from her in-laws but her fifty percent burns  were just not allowing the terrifying memories to escape. “Neha , Don’t keep feeling like a victim, you are a survivor. Burn your past memories ,not your dreams ” Asha Didi fondled ...

Sometimes , I  feel like Life is a  game  of experiences ,  just  like  that  game of passing the parcel which  the kids play at their birthday parties. There is a box containing the prompt tickets . Each player needs to pick a prompt ticket and has to act accordingly . Isn’t same  the case with Life ? God has created daily prompt tickets for all of us .  You never know which prompt are you going to be given today . Every prompt ticket brings a new experience with it. Each experience has its own flavour. Some experiences are positive, some are negative. Some experiences are fun , some are problematic. Some experiences bring  lot of learnings , some bring adventure. Some experiences are such you feel always thankful for and some you regret. Today I write about the day Life gave me a prompt ticket which read ” Adventure of  River Rafting “. It was my long awaited wish. It was few years back that we went to Rishikesh and decided to stay at a  tented accomodation near t...

         1. The best way to overcome fear is to face it.                     डर से जीतने  का सबसे बढ़िया तरीका है डर का सामना करना (यह quote मेरा सबसे मनपसंद quote है ….मैंने इसे कई बार अपनी ज़िन्दगी में लागू करने की कोशिश की  है और हर बार सफलता भी पायी है ….सच है की जिस चीज़ से या जिस काम से आपको डर लग रहा है उसका   सामना करिये डर अपने आप भाग जायेगा और ऐसा भागेगा की फिर लौटकर कभी वापिस नहीं आएगा)         2. Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.                डर उतना ही गहरा होगा जितना आप अपने मन में बिठाएंगे        3. Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.                  डर केवल आपके मन की एक अवस्था है             4.   Brave man is not the one who doesn’t feel afraid but he              who conquers that fear.               हिम्मती इंसान उसको नहीं कहते जो डरता नहीं बल्कि उसे कहते हैं जो                          अपने डर पर जीत हासिल कर लेता है        5. Fear is the brain’s way of saying that there is something                      important for you to overcome.    ...