Monika Suri

‘The Silver Lined Mommy’ It is an eBook which is a self-help book for middle aged women. A woman plays many roles –  wife , mother , daughter and a daughter-in-law . She handles endless responsibilities being a home-maker and a care-taker for her family . Amid all this , a woman’s personal priorities somehow take a back seat . And as she  steps into  the middle age group of her life i.e. around the age of forty , she notices some changes in her body and mind too . Fine wrinkles start appearing , hair start changing  their color to grey , some extra hair growth on face or may be some weight-gain  . She starts to meet a  little different woman  in the mirror. The middle age group also brings some hormone problems which may cause stress . From the author of ‘The Silver Lined Mommy’ Hi ! I am Monika Davessar – author of the  eBook ‘The Silver Lined Mommy’. I am running in my forties and by profession I am working as a lecturer for the last 19 years. Writing has become my i...

 Should you invest time in celebrating yourself ? Is it really  important to celebrate yourself ? If yes , what are the reasons and HOW tips ? We live in  a world which doesn’t pause or rest . Everyone of us is rushing . We are striving for accomplishments , success , growth and joy . See ! Joy comes at the last after accomplishments or success . Actually it has been so fixed in our minds that hard work and accomplishment leads to success . And success would then bring joy . There are people and media daily hitting your minds with the headings like – Achieve as much as you can in a day , Be productive , How to improve productivity , Work on your hobbies , fitness mantras , and what not . You just can’t count them . Everyone is working hard , but don’t you think that you forget celebrating yourself in the process ? When was the last time you paused and celebrated yourself ? Here are the 3 reasons we all should be celebrating ourselves . WHY ‘Celebrating your...

You are a woman , a mother . Raising your child in a meaningful way is your duty which can be  challenging at times . I know you as a mother are doing the best on your part . You want to raise your child as a  kind , courageous , high performing individual . And you are already working in this direction . It’s important that you as a mother instill some virtues in your child . After all virtues make one’s life meaningful . The most precious treasure is virtue. – Gautam Budhha  Virtue means power, strength, inner quality. Virtues define our character. There is an endless of virtues one should develop in herself and also instill in her child . Kindness, Hard work , compassion , forgiveness ,  spiritual principles , Respect for all , truthfulness , all these are the qualities of a good human being . Here I am talking about just 4 virtues you as a mother must try to instill in your child . But there’s another strong aspect about instilling virtues in your child . Tha...

The # Covid19 outbreak forced the nation to go into lockdown . Schools , offices , markets are closed for the last many days  . Children are at home and other family members too , apart from those involved in essential services . Being primary care takers of family and home managers , women’s job has turned to be much more than the basic essential service during the quarantine period .  If you are a SAHM your responsibilities have been  doubled up because of more kitchen work and more family care . If you have been a working woman and now-a-days you have to work from home , your responsibilities have been  tripled up . Lockdown 2.0 has started and it’s time to go for Life management 2.0 for women . Woman and Quarantine Quarantine period brings more responsibilities for women More kitchen work Women , being the primary care taker of family , have to spend much more time in the kitchen , fulfilling demands of all family members . Maids’ help is a distant dream but demand...

Perimenopause It is the period of a woman’s life shortly before the occurrence of the menopause.  The transition period of a woman towards menopause , called perimenopause  usually occurs in a woman’s life in her 40s .  In rare cases , it can  occur in late 30s also .  It’s the time when the ovaries gradually begin to make less estrogen. After an average 4-5 years of the transition period of perimenopause , a woman finally reaches the stage of menopause when the ovaries stop releasing eggs . Women in perimenopause stage are known to show symptoms like hot flashes , fatigue , irregular periods ,  thinning of hair , skin dryness , mood swings , trouble sleeping and weight gain too . I have been in contact with few women who are around the age of 45 , they haven’t made any changes in their diet or not living a sedentary lifestyle but still they are gaining weight . I am 42 and  I am having regular periods till now . But sometimes I do notice swings in my mood  and since this lockdown...

If i ask a woman over 40  -What are your life goals? The answer may be  : I want my children to study hard and settle well in life . I wish my husband to be always happy at workplace so that he’s happy at home also. I wish to save lot of money . I want to own a big house and a big car . Well, may be your answer is a bit different . But if you analyze the above answers , are these really the personal life goals for a woman ? Just think over . Aren’t these family goals ? Of course you are a unit with your family . So your family goals are your goals in some way . But what are the life goals which you want as a woman ? Which are the goals ,if achieved, can bless you with joy ? Life goals for a woman over 40 40s is the time when it’s been around ten years or more of your married life and your children are around teenage . You may feel worried about their school , marks , higher education in future and the finances involved . If you are living on rent ,  you may feel the pr...

Self-care for a woman and Cooking  Cooking is like an essential qualification to be a woman . Whether you are a SAHM or a working woman , you have to be skilled in cooking . You may have faced the questions  like ‘ Khana banana aata hai na? ’ or the exclamatory comments like ‘What ? You don’t know how to cook !’ during the period when parents were searching a matrimonial  match for you . People make you feel like you are incomplete without this skill . Time , experience , hit-n-trial, mistakes , transform you into the  skilled chef of your own family . Everybody looks towards you many times a day to satisfy their hunger  . Not just basic hunger ,you have to take care of their emotional hunger too . Everyday there is a big question your own mind asks – Aaj kya banaun ? or they may ask ‘ Aaj kya bnaya hai ? ’ Whatever work you are doing or wherever you are , the kind of  thoughts  which are  always at the back of your mind are : What my  husband or children would like to eat today ? Wh...

Do you know the tips to  Love your Body ? Hello all the women out there ! How’s Life going on ? As we reach 40 we do notice some changes in our physical appearance .  Some grey hairs make their entry , we may notice some eye wrinkles  or dark circles . Hormonal changes bring some extra hair growth on chin or other parts of face . We may put on  that stubborn fat around tummy or the arms fat may start to hang down . Well there may be different changes in our bodies varying from person to person . The 40 milestone may bring many emotional changes too but today we will be discussing just about physical appearance . What changes have  I observed in myself after 40 ? 40s has blessed me with  grey hairs few eye wrinkles  skin dryness some weight gain Backache  ( Lumbo Sacral belt has become my essential friend ) a tooth extracted I  don’t have a perfect body as I had  during  20-30s . What do I do now ? My marriage time dresses don’t fit me any more . I have more often to go to parlour ...