You are a woman , a mother . Raising your child in a meaningful way is your duty which can be challenging at times . I know you as a mother are doing the best on your part . You want to raise your child as a kind , courageous , high performing individual . And you are already working in this direction .
It’s important that you as a mother instill some virtues in your child . After all virtues make one’s life meaningful .
The most precious treasure is virtue. – Gautam Budhha
Virtue means power, strength, inner quality. Virtues define our character. There is an endless of virtues one should develop in herself and also instill in her child . Kindness, Hard work , compassion , forgiveness , spiritual principles , Respect for all , truthfulness , all these are the qualities of a good human being .
Here I am talking about just 4 virtues you as a mother must try to instill in your child . But there’s another strong aspect about instilling virtues in your child . That is that you should develop them first in yourself . Children imitate very well you know . So it’s better to live those virtues first . Don’t just talk about virtues , live them.
As you do not sweeten your mouth by saying honey, so you do not grow virtuous by merely talking of virtue.
4 virtues a mother must instill in her child
Volunteering
Volunteering is the virtue by which you can contribute your part to make this world a better place . You make a physical and emotional impact on the community .
- Volunteering makes you happy
- It helps you beat the stress of life .
- It gives a meaning to your life .
- Volunteering is a greater term to Kindness .
- Your social skills also improve.
- Volunteering can make you better at team-work.
Last year , on the occasion of Guru Nanak Jayanti , there was a common function in our society . I motivated my daughter to do some kind of sewa . She volunteered to do joda ghar sewa . She made numbered tokens , set up a stall and was happy to do this selfless service till evening . When it was over and we came back home , you know what she said excitedly – Mumma , next year Langar sewa !
Volunteering is a virtue everybody should have . Don’t we owe to the ones who are volunteering in today’s lockdown period ?
2. Self-Discipline
Virtue of self-discipline is the key ingredient to success . If you follow a task consistently with passion , without waiting for the push from external force , that is self -discipline . In my classroom , I always cite imposed discipline versus self-discipline to my weak students .
Success in exams , results in gym or learning any art skill – they all require self-discipline . Discipline your thoughts first . Neither be slave to your moods nor give excuses of less time .
- Self-discipline gives you results.
- It makes you happy.
- You don’t have to regret later if you are self-disciplined from beginning .
- With self-discipline , you start loving yourself more and more .
I don’t stop when I am tired
I stop when I am done
As April started , I took the challenge of a month long blogging challenge which requires self-discipline, I think . Along with me , my daughter also took this challenge . Yes she runs her blog on alittlebloggirl.blogspot.com . She has just entered teenage and i was doubtful how long would she be continuing in the challenge . But she is up to the mark in her writing challenge . She is not so good at reading part , but I am happy to see her self-discipline in writing . As a mom , I feel great when she competes with me who is going to post first . You can check her posts here and motivate her .
3. Creativity
In today’s lockdown period , I am sure creativity is the thing which is saving you and keeping you happy . It’s true that some children are god gifted and exceptionally creative by birth . But you being a mother can take certain steps to instill the virtue of creativity in your child . Only essential part is that you yourself would have to involve with your child .
Creativity can be in doing craft work , drawing , dancing , baking or even dressing up . Indulge with your child and encourage him/her to puruse some creative activity . Creative work that keeps you so engaged that you forget how time runs , is called Engagement . This is one of the important aspect of wellness .
- Creative work keeps you happy.
- Creativity is important aspect of Wellness .
- The more creativity you use , the more you have .
- Have no fear of perfection . Creativity is not a competition.
You and your child together can do some DIY projects , read books ,or cook together . Now-a-days I and my daughter keep ourselves busy with doodling , cooking and blogging . Oh yes ! Blogging also is creativity ! You too go and start your creative activities with your child today .
one of her doodles
4. Resilience
Resilience is the strength to stand with a strength every time you fall . We all face difficulties and challenges but resilience is what determines whether we fight through it and grow, or whether allow ourselves be defeated . Resilience is an important skill you should instill in your child , because you never know how many ups and downs will be posed in your child’s life .
Set an example of resilience for your child . Continue to work in the right direction even after a failure . Don’t cry on little things . Even if you or your child cries , it’s perfectly OK . Tell your child that crying doesn’t always mean weakness . It’s just an emotion that maintains our emotional balance .
- Train your child to be resilient even when report card shows less marks .
- Don’t feel upset when the task doesn’t get accomplished at first attempt. Keep trying .
- Don’t expect life to be easier . Learn to be more resilient .
Tough times don’t last . Tough people do .
You are a mother . You are given a beautiful responsibilty of raising a strong & virtuous child . Instill virtues in yourself and your child . Enjoy your motherhood .
Below is my post on WomensWeb when I and my daughter together took a fitness challenge :
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