Monika Suri

Red zone , orange zone , green zone , we all are familiar with these terms now-a-days . The district where I live has been declared as a red zone . Red zone is the zone where there are quite a large number of cases of Corona virus infection and it stands a chance to spread rapidly . Orange zone is where there are few cases and it can be controlled with few efforts . Green zone is the one where there’s no virus infection as yet and we want it to remain a green zone . The same concept applies to our thoughts . Sometimes the life becomes a real struggle – there are conflicts with family , pressures at workplace , parenting burdens , health troubles , and there accompany them the stressful  emotions -frustration , anger , sadness , hatred , self-neglect , and many more . When such emotions pile up in your mind , you need to become very careful of your thoughts as your mind has entered a red zone . You have to work on your thoughts so as to avoid potential of community outbreak o...

 Should you invest time in celebrating yourself ? Is it really  important to celebrate yourself ? If yes , what are the reasons and HOW tips ? We live in  a world which doesn’t pause or rest . Everyone of us is rushing . We are striving for accomplishments , success , growth and joy . See ! Joy comes at the last after accomplishments or success . Actually it has been so fixed in our minds that hard work and accomplishment leads to success . And success would then bring joy . There are people and media daily hitting your minds with the headings like – Achieve as much as you can in a day , Be productive , How to improve productivity , Work on your hobbies , fitness mantras , and what not . You just can’t count them . Everyone is working hard , but don’t you think that you forget celebrating yourself in the process ? When was the last time you paused and celebrated yourself ? Here are the 3 reasons we all should be celebrating ourselves . WHY ‘Celebrating your...

All of us have been writing since childhood – learning ABC to sentences to paragaraphs and then essays . I have also done that . I started writing a blog three  years back . It was started just as a hobby , or you can say an online diary . Over a period of years , I have started finding writing as a stress-reliever . Writing has now become an important part of my wellness . What is wellness ? Wellness is much more than the absence of illness; it is our total well-being – in body, mind, and spirit. By wellness , it means that : you have a healthy body your mind has a good  emotional balance you live with  optimism To Live in present – you have learnt this art you have a progressive attitude Are Writing and Wellness really connected to each other ? Let’s start with a famous Wellness model given by Martin Seligman. . He developed a five core element of wellness  and happiness . This 5 element model is known as PERMA model .   P : Positive emotions E : Engagemen...

At times , I encounter ‘not feeling good’ days in my life . The reason may be beacuse things didn’t go as i wanted or may be some other reason . I don’t know exactly why ,but those days are there . The day when I felt grumpy morning to evening   We often worry about our  physical well being ,  focus on our fitness ,  reach out to doctors when we face any health trouble , but we forget most of the times to  look after our emotional well being . Emotions OK , Let’s start with a simple question – Have you ever felt any of the following feelings ? Angry Joyful Frustrated Excited Yelling Crying Smiling for no reason You answered Yes , right ? Why not , a human is made up of emotions . These are all states of mind . If you are happy and  calm it means that everything on behavioural level is going on smoothly . But if you experience the negative emotions like anger , yelling , frustration , then there must be something that is not OK on the  behavioural...

7 tips that can get you a happy life  How to make happiness a habit ? What do you want to do with your one precious life ? What is Happiness ? If you ask people – What do you want in life ? They would quickly answer -HAPPINESS . If you pose the next question – How to find it ? They would answer – Own house , good health , well settled children ,or something similar . If you pose the next question – What actions are you taking to achieve happiness ? They may (not quickly this time) answer – We are working hard , earning , saving , sending children to good schools , etc. If you pose the next question – Aren’t all these actions oriented in the hope of future happiness ?  There comes the paradox . What are you doing for your happiness in the present ? You are all the time worried about your future . You are not happy today but are all the time  working  to be happy tomorrow . And that tomorrow may not just come . Happiness Paradox can be understoo...

Country is locked down and so am I within few square feet of space. After the routine tasks of mopping , dishing , laundry , cooking , sanitizing the nooks and corners of my home , I lighted  a diya in my little temple and then sat with my laptop along with  TV switched on   . I scrolled through various channels ,with most of them showing the Corona news and the lookout for Maulana . The rising number of cases in the various states brought me fear and stress . I wanted to write my next post for the blogging challenge but nothing came in my mind . I distracted myself by picking a book to read but couldn’t enjoy it . I didn’t even feel like making rice for my daughter in the lunch . Thankfully she is big enough to make it on her own . The previous night’s dream also kept scaring me till evening . Scientists were making arrangements for sending me in space for their next satellite mission . I was so frightened and kept refusing but they were continually persuading  me ....

What kind of person I am ? Before I start writing about my habits , let me write about the kind of a person I am . I am a simple woman –not too much after fashion , brands or  make-up . I am most of the times a smiling person . It’s not that  I do not get angry , but I have observed that my anger lasts only for few minutes . I yell it away and then suddenly my smile is back. I also have the ‘Let-go’ tendency . That keeps me stress free in many situations . Now analyzing all these things , what should I call myself ? Will the word   ‘Easy-going’ be suitable ? ‘Easy-going’ is the person who keeps himself at ease while moving through Life In everybody’s life there are ups and downs , smiles and stress. Not all days are good . But on the same time not all days are bad . And you will agree that some days go very good . When I spent the good days excitedly with smiles , then I should be having enough strength to  move across the bad days without frowns . ‘Easy-going ‘ doesn’t mean that I am ...

Before I begin , let me first share with you that I recently changed my blog name . Earlier It was alubhujia.com and after lot many doubts , confusions and brainstorming I have renamed it meralifestyle.com . Hope everything old and new works well ! It may take time for things to run smoothly , but I had to start afresh . So here I am with a fresh happy start . We all want to be happy. But today’s lifestyle has engulfed us so tight that sometimes it feels that we are not living in the real sense but  just rushing to complete  some tasks  that have been allotted to us . The same monotonous job and its targets  , the pressure of finishing off all the home/family tasks makes us feel like a machine , a non living thing . A high-tech machine  is able to perform many complex tasks but it can’t feel anything , it can’t smile or laugh . It can neither cry nor be happy . That’s what we have become – a machine . Don’t you remember how we define a machine ? A mac...

Scrolling through facebook posts and notifications today , I came across a video by Sandeep Maheshwari “How to be happy?” The audience is asking that they are busy from morning till late night , working non-stop like robots , getting up early , finishing off domestic chores , working for hours in the office , also spending time for family’s wishes and happiness  , with no time left for self -happiness . This is the case with all of us . Right ? Even after doing all the above listed tasks on daily basis , people can be heard complaining about us-You didn’t do this , you didn’t perform your duty perfectly , you didn’t cook tasty food today ,blah blah blah . We are so much in the grip of the daily life struggles that we are too much occupied with worries , tensions , jealousy ,with hardly any time for self-happiness . Then what do we do ? Well , Sandeep Maheshwari answers – Contentment is the key to happiness . Yes all of us know that . But how man...

Zen is a school of Buddhism that originated in China . The word Zen means meditation. Zen teachings emphasize  the value of meditation and intuition rather than ritual worship or study of scriptures. It offers a method of self-searching . Zen stories are great lessons for life. The lesson can be anything about life  which can be discovered through a life devoted to looking within yourself. Zen lesson about ‘Time’ Gasan , a japanese Zen master instructed his pupils one day ” Those who speak about killing and who desire to save the lives of all conscious beings are right . It is good to protect animals and insects . But what about those who are killing time ? Furthermore , what about the one who preaches without enlightenment ? Isn’t he killing Budhism ?”  The story teaches us the value of time . Time is wealth and once it is gone , you can’t bring it back . So one should make the best use of Time . Begin Today .   Zen lesson about ‘Temper...