Love your Body - A friendly advice for women over 40

Do you know the tips to  Love your Body ?

Hello all the women out there ! How’s Life going on ?

As we reach 40 we do notice some changes in our physical appearance .  Some grey hairs make their entry , we may notice some eye wrinkles  or dark circles . Hormonal changes bring some extra hair growth on chin or other parts of face . We may put on  that stubborn fat around tummy or the arms fat may start to hang down . Well there may be different changes in our bodies varying from person to person .

The 40 milestone may bring many emotional changes too but today we will be discussing just about physical appearance .

What changes have  I observed in myself after 40 ?

40s has blessed me with

•  grey hairs
• few eye wrinkles
•  skin dryness
• some weight gain
• Backache  ( Lumbo Sacral belt has become my essential friend )
• a tooth extracted

I  don’t have a perfect body as I had  during  20-30s . What do I do now ?

My marriage time dresses don’t fit me any more . I have more often to go to parlour for hiding my greys .

When I look in the mirror twisting front and back ,I  get extra conscious of my body shape . I am not old but I am not even young . But I do want to look young .

I start eating  more of salads , skipping  dinner , and going to gym  again . I want to be back in good shape again . But my work routine doesn’t allow me to be consistent on this .

As I am suffering from backache , Doctor has advised me to avoid  weight training . Only brisk walk or yoga can help me .

I wonder how I was able to lose 8 kg weight few years back . Hope the scale  points  to that reading once again .

I feel jealous of the woman in my society who has a perfect body and wears frocks and shorts .

Are the physical looks so important for a woman ?

The very first thing anybody notices in you is your looks . How your face and body look .  No doubt that having a charming face or the not-fat figure make a woman graceful . But I think it  should not be such  important  as to pressurize me and make me stressed.

The pressure to have a slim figure , beautiful face are  only for  women . For men, being obese , having dark circles , grey hair or even a patchy skin will do . Nobody even notices . But for women !

Advice tips for women over 40 -How to Love your body

• You can work to have a beautiful personality but you should also Love your body as it is .

What do you think ?  A woman would be happy only if she is slim ? Only a  woman with a beautiful face would be appreciated ? Well I think we need to stop comparing ourselves with others.  . We all need to love our bodies . Not every slim woman is happy . Not just black hair are smart . In some cases greys are smarter . What do you think ? Complete grey hair , a graceful saree and a red lipstick can prove to be glorifying over  the  dark eye circles too .

It’s not that I am asking you to be lethargic and forget about your physical appearance. You must work for a graceful appearance . Color your hair  or keep them greys  as you want . If the body fat doesn’t listen to you , dress up differently to make a fool of it . Cover your fatty areas with long gowns ,  flowing dresses or sarees . They all can make you look slimmer and sexy .

But just love your body . Don’t feel guilty about it .

• Focus on your inner joy

The thing you should be focused on is your health and  inner  joy . One can be happy in her pyjamas too ,  I think happier .

You know what ? I have to wear  my backache belt on daily basis especially while traveling . But I never take it to heart that I am suffering from an orthopaedic problem . My belt  actually (or fakely ?) makes my tummy area look flattened . What else do I need ?

• Work for your fitness , not just perfect body shape

The woman in my society whom i feel jealous beacuse she has a slim figure and she adorns sexy dresses , lacks far behind me when it comes to stamina . She cannot walk on treadmill for more than 10 minutes and she loses breath quickly while climbing stairs . Don’t you want to know about me ? Well I can easily do half an hour on treadmill and i do climb till my house on 5th floor . So the point is that you should work  on  your fitness , not just weightloss or a sexy figure .

Stretch your body , not stress your body

Work on your health , not just body

• Work on your hobby ,  not just wardrobe

Everytime you open your wardrobe and see lots of dresses which don’t fit you , you feel so low . You keep standing in front of it and staring which dress would fit you . I am no exception . Last month I had to go to some marriage function . I opened my wardrobe , tried atleast 8-10 dresses , with the result just  to mess up on my bed .

Worry less on your wardrobe . Think beyond . Which is your long lost hobby ? Do you love to read or dance ? Write or draw ? Garden or music ? There must be some unfulfilled desires in your mind . Work on those one step at a time – spending may be just half an hour for it .

• Don’t bother about people  who make you feel guilty

Real friends always love you the way you are . They even help you out . But beware of  the online janta, stop bothering about what they comment  . Kitni moti ho gyi tu yaar , Kuch karo , diet plan le lo . 

Avoid such people . You  are your own  motivation . Reaching the age of 40 , you have already gained lot of  wisdom  to push away negative from yourself . You just need to remind yourself how beautiful you are from inside .

Love your body . There’s more to life than just a perfect body .

Women ! Your  greys are your  wisdom hair. Your weight gain or the skin dryness don’t define you .  The strength , confidence , struggles , courage to smile amidst sorrows are the real gains of your  life .

Repeat daily  – ‘I love myself as I am’

#embrace40