If i ask a woman over 40 -What are your life goals? The answer may be :
I want my children to study hard and settle well in life .
I wish my husband to be always happy at workplace so that he’s happy at home also.
I wish to save lot of money .
I want to own a big house and a big car .
Well, may be your answer is a bit different . But if you analyze the above answers , are these really the personal life goals for a woman ? Just think over . Aren’t these family goals ?
Of course you are a unit with your family . So your family goals are your goals in some way . But what are the life goals which you want as a woman ? Which are the goals ,if achieved, can bless you with joy ?
Life goals for a woman over 40
40s is the time when it’s been around ten years or more of your married life and your children are around teenage . You may feel worried about their school , marks , higher education in future and the finances involved . If you are living on rent , you may feel the pressure of owning a home. If you have started facing little health troubles , then you may find house chores a burden . If you yourself or your husband is stressed at workplace , that stress would enter into your personal life too .
Can you put a stop on your demanding Habit ?
When you were not married , you had the wish to get married soon , as if marriage would bring you joy . When you got married , you started complaining ‘Oh my God ! Ye shaadi ka laddu!‘ When your kid was toddler you were always stressed because his tantrums always left you with incomplete sleep . Now when your kid has grown to be a teenager you are shocked and confused to face his teenage temper tantrums . When you had busy days at workplace you always wanted a holiday . Now when lockdown has forcibly kept you on a holiday you want to go out .
Actually you are not alone . We humans are all same . Never satisfied . If we don’t have something , we cry . If we get that , we cry or crave for another . This habit has to be killed somehow .
You need to learn to be joyful in the daily little happenings of life . Be joyful when you have tea sitting in the balcony, look at the trees and birds . Enjoy fully when spending time with your child, be like a child . Listen to your family with all mindfulness , without the worry of kitchen or other house chores at the back of your mind .
It’s time to work on the personal goals that can bring you joy .
Your health
Health is wealth . Yes this is the real wealth . Only when you are fit and healthy that the world appears beautiful . So take very good care of yourself . Nutritious food and a small fitness regime is good enough . And no excuses please .
2. Be kind to others and yourself too
All of them say – Kindness is the key to happiness . But being kind to yourself is the key to joyfulness . Be kind to yourself if you left any house chore incomplete today . Forgive yourself if you yelled at your child today . Nobody but you first have to learn to be kind to yourself .
3. ‘Go Inside’
Do prayer and meditation too as a personal life goal , for your own joy . I mean don’t sit for prayer demanding good marks for your child , or any other demand . Meditate- just to be thoughtless for some time and feel calm . ‘Go Inside’ , be in the present moment without grieving about past or worrying about future .
4. Travel
To me , Travel , music and blogging is total happiness . Travel far away and you feel closer to yourself . Apart from family trips , plan out trips just with your friends too . The madness done with friends is the happiness just out of this world .
5. See your finances
Again this should be a personal life goal for a woman . Don’t confuse it with family finance goals . May you as a family unit have mountain of finances . But a woman as an individual must save at least a hill of finances just in her name . After all wealth in your own name is the real wealth . Rest all is under the name of love . So look out for some work opportunities that keep you busy and fill your wallet too .
6. Learn to say NO
At times you don’t feel like doing a task but you have to do out of family pressure or emotional blackmail . See the priority of the task and you think that is not the need of the hour , say NO . This way you are being kind to yourself .
Joy brings cheerfulness and flexibility
Have you noticed when you are joyful on a certain day , you are so cheerful while doing any task . You are flexible even on a hectic schedule or even if a difficult work is assigned to you . But on some days when you are not OK , you grumble while doing even the simple daily chores . You become more demanding or complaining to the people around you .
It’s important that doing all your duties , you don’t forget to work on your personal life goals which can bring you joy .
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