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Decade Reflections - Crests and Troughs together make a wave

As I join my first blog hop of the year 2020 #decadehop along with many other bloggers it’s time to reflect on the ten years passed by. Let me rewind the  major crests and troughs  of the  past decade 2010-2019 of my life.

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2010 was the year when my daughter had turned 3 yr old and I admitted her to a playway school near our home . The name of the school was ‘The Big Apple’ and the owner/coordinator of the school was Dee Ma’am . I have forgotten her full name but that’s how everyone addressed her . I remember how I also spent an hour daily at the school during the initial 3-4 days , just to make my daughter comfortable . Slowly she fell in love with the pigeons , sparrows , rats , rabbits which Dee Ma’am was nurturing  as pets .It was an exciting phase to watch my kiddo scribbling zigzag lines on her notebooks ,  dressing her up for fancy dress competition and even taking part in mom-baby duo race on sports day . Along with all this 2010  became the year when I once again saw two pink lines but couldn’t sustain .

Life is a mixture  of happy and sad moments .

The next 2-3 years was  a  bad span of life  as my husband  lost his job . After a lot of brainstorming and research  he started his own business but something else was written in the pages of destiny . He suffered huge losses . I saw him working very hard , coming back home late at nights but I also saw how some workers took advantage of his  over polite attitude . It took hell lot of effort even to wind up all the business .

Being too good to others can be dangerous .

In hindi we say – Itna mitha na bano ki duniya apko gud samajh ke nigal jaye . Well how many of you are good at hindi and understand this statement ?

2017 became the lucky year when I started my blog . I had just no idea before that what a blog meant . I didn’t have any friend or family who could guide me about starting a blog , designing it or the bigger terms like SEO or Alexa rank. I had to DIY each and every small thing . Thanks to Google and Youtube .Blogging widened my thinking – I came to know how  other people are living  , what  they are reading ,how blogging is  a profession for many. I continued writing blogs  and in April 2018 came #BlogchatterA2Z in which I wrote about the many obscurities  faced by women in daily life . Daily blogging for a whole month was not easy but I was determined . After the challenge was over  I compiled all the posts into an ebook Astitva .

Determination is the key to success.

2018 became the luckiest year when we finally could have our own little dream house. Long term planning had finally taken a shape  . We three were too excited and thoroughly enjoyed the phase between possession and shifting into the house . Daily planning about the new shopping , old items on olx , which curtains , which colour of walls etc etc etc – it was so thrilling . Ever since I had the vision of my own house I wanted a little special space for the temple in my home . I just didn’t want to hang a wooden altar on the wall as my temple . It took few days to conceptualize and then to give my vision a real shape.Some renovation and finally a little but  special space could be  created for my Kanhaji . Felt blessed .

Work hard , Earn more , Do your best ,  accomplish your goals but don’t ever forget to be grateful 

2019 came as even more thrilling as my longed love for solo travel came true . And it was international too !  NewZealand came as a dream come true for me. No doubt I was bit scared to go all alone , but I learnt that once you step out of house the way unfolds on its own . Moving flights , cabs , ferries , trains –all alone  , I gained more confidence and happiness . The trip was a total rejuvenation for me .

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I feel very very thankful to my husband  as it was just not possible to  fulfill my solo travel wish without his cooperation . I wish the new decade to bless me with a world tour . God helps !

We should always follow the things which rejuvenate us , otherwise we harden !

November 2019 brought  a chapter  of grief for the family as I lost my maternal grandmother . All of us used to address her as Badi Maa .The so called ultimate reality of life was sending  shivers down my soul as I was witnessing a cremation for the first time in my life.

All of us have to go back one day   . Let’s spend our life free of ego and hatred . 

Well the decade was a mix of so many things. Changing three workplaces , suffering from slipdisc , reducing 10 kg weight and gaining 5kg again , successfully completing many blogging challenges , saving money for travel and at the same time paying EMIs for dream home , I would say my past  decade did have ups and downs but let me  focus more on the ups .  Hoping for the new year  to come up with more crests  , less troughs , more positivity , happiness , accomplishments in my life . But I know very well that crests and troughs together make a wave .

The key is to enjoy the crests and show courage during troughs .

“This post is a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organised by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The Event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The BoxWedding ClapThe Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee”

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