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J  stands for JUDGED .

Judged

 

A piece of fiction on the word  JUDGED

Renu was a working girl in her twenties. She had  got married to Vivek   just two years ago .  The family consisted of his parents and his unmarried sister Shweta .  From day one Renu came in this family , she  felt being judged  even at little things . Why are you wearing this ? Why did you get late today ? Who came to drop you home today  ?  Why can’t you leave job and plan your child ?

Every such statement or taunt was making  a crack in the relationship , with nobody there  even trying to fill those cracks . Vivek’s late night parties  didn’t hurt anybody else  in the family , except Renu who could smell  .  She was able to  smell his ex marital affair too along with the smell of the intoxicating drinks  from the last many months.

Renu set an example of patience , courage , sacrifice , love and she  left no stone unturned .

” Beta Renu , what happened ? Are you going somewhere ? ” Today a softness was there in Mom’s  voice when she saw Renu packing her bags

“Yes Maa  G , you four would make a happy family , Vivek has come on the right track now “

“But Beta G , when Vivek has come on the right track , where are you going ?  ”  Today  for the first time Papa G also had Voice

” I can’t be quiet all my life Papa G “

My Thoughts on the word JUDGED

In the above story , Renu no longer wanted herself to be judged . She dared and took a bold step . Her self -respect  didn’t allow her to make compromises when it came to the dignity of the relationship . No more cracks !

In our society , almost in every family , why is it always the woman who is judged ? Why is it  taken for granted that she would adjust in any kind of situation ? How women  are viewed differently  from men ? Men are allowed to do just anything ,  even outside the moral society structure . Their smoking , drinking , late night parties or  even using abusive language , all are considered as somewhat essentials , just  because they are MEN . And if  once in a while , a woman gets late from office , lot of eyes start staring at her strangely and doubtfully . Why ?

The need is to break free from the patriarchal mould .

Judged

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