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#Bride Burning - Is it still practiced in 21st century ? #BlogchatterAtoZ #Astitva

The alphabet of the day is B

B stands for : Bride Burning

A piece of fiction on Bride Burning

Bride Burning

In today’s  exhibition , the painting with the title ‘Bride Burning’ was adjudged the best one. The painting depicted the face of a woman lost in flames. The painter , Jaya , was asked to come on the stage and say a few words. Someone from the audience asked  “Is Bride Burning still practiced in 21st century ? Isn’t it a concern of the past ?”

Here were Jaya’s words in reply :

I am a Woman , a Bride too ,  I have my own existence , My #Astitva

You don’t burn a Bride just by a matchstick

Whenever  you insulted  me , you tried to burn my respect

When you assaulted  me physically , you burnt the dignity of our relationship.

When you just didn’t  care about my emotions , you burnt the love that I had stored exclusively  for you .

When you doubted my character , you burnt the bond of trust between us .

When you came home drunk & showed your real character , you burnt the definition of The Better Half

My thoughts on Bride Burning :-

The statistics may have come down but the crime Bride  Burning is still practiced in India and many other south asian countries . Brides are burnt alive by husband or in-laws for dowry or when the couple is not blessed with a male child . The strange part is that the bride is totally held responsible for it . On one hand , people worship  Durga Maa  , the goddess and  on the other hand , they just don’t think even little before burning the brides . Are these the norms of a civilised society ? Are we really educated in the 21st century ?

#WhenWillWeChange

Much has been done on women empowerment . Then why are these crimes still form a part of the society ? Because there is no fear of punishment . The need is to form strict laws giving quick justice to the victims and  hard punishments  to the accused of such crimes . If everybody knows that the punishment for Bride Burning would be to face the heat   and scars on one’s own body too , then hands would automatically be controlled before lighting  up a matchstick .

Bride Burning

You can read about my post on ABUSE here

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